Honestly, Man
Why masculinity feels confusing, shame doesn't help and what to do about it
Explore this talkKeynotes · Workshops · Main Stage
Andrew Pain is a keynote speaker on mental health, wellbeing, inclusion and talent development, who combines energetic delivery, sensitivity and an engaging sense of humour to address serious topics. His talks are for leaders, managers, HR and wellbeing professionals, employee resource groups and teams.
Why event organisers trust Andrew
Andrew speaks from lived experience and two decades inside HR – so the room feels understood, not lectured. Every keynote is grounded in practical habits your people can use on Monday morning.
Nine signature talks
Every talk can be delivered as a keynote or an interactive workshop, in person or virtually. Explore each one to see the takeaways, formats and ideal audience.
Why masculinity feels confusing, shame doesn't help and what to do about it
Explore this talkMasculinity, connection and 3 groups of dads at risk
Explore this talkCollective and Individual Habits That Actually Work
Explore this talkA Survivor's Guide to Building Abuse-Aware Workplaces
Explore this talkWhy 85% Battle a Syndrome 'Fake It Till You Make It' Won't Fix
Explore this talkNavigate the 3 'Minefield' Conversation Types in One Piece
Explore this talk4 Pillars to Protect What Matters Most
Explore this talkHow to make wise decisions when the stakes are high, and you need to think fast
Explore this talkWorkplace Belonging in Just 3 Steps
Explore this talkOrganisations who've booked Andrew to speak
Organisations who have booked Andrew to speak include Amazon, HSBC, Siemens, Lidl, the NHS, the Crown Prosecution Service, DLA Piper, CIPD, the University of Oxford and RoSPA.
What event organisers say
“We've had some lovely feedback from last week's webinar. Thank you so much! We had 100% satisfaction.”
“Your talk was brilliant. Everyone took a lot from it and it really set the tone for the rest of the conference with lots of engagement and discussion from the attendees.”
“Andrew's engaging style of delivery brought the best out of our colleagues (even first thing in the morning), and we received many comments that they could have listened to him talk longer, so we've already booked him for another talk later this year!”
Formats & logistics
Andrew tailors every talk to your audience, theme and time slot. Here's how the practical side usually works – tell him the room and he'll shape the rest.
Keynotes usually run 45 minutes to an hour, sometimes 90. Around two hours it becomes a workshop; longer than that is rare.
From an intimate group of 8–12 to a main-stage audience of 200–250. Interactive workshops usually sit around 40–70.
Andrew works with whatever setup you have. And if the tech fails, the show still goes on – he'll present without slides.
Delivered on-site or online, on the platform you already use – most often Teams or Zoom.
Booking a speaker on mental health for the first time? Read the questions to ask any speaker. Planning for an awareness day? Mental Health Awareness Week, World Mental Health Day or International Men's Day.
Another way to work together
Andrew also creates bespoke podcasts – the same conversations in a format your people can keep listening to long after the event. A good fit if you like the topics but want something different from a talk.
Before you book
Andrew Pain speaks to organisations about mental health and resilience at work: burnout, men's mental health, fatherhood, domestic abuse, imposter syndrome, challenging conversations, decisions under pressure, belonging at work, and time and work-life balance. Each signature talk is on this page.
Yes, from start to finish. Andrew works with the audience in groups, so a session feels like a conversation, not 50 minutes of talking followed by questions.
Yes. Every title and outline on this site is a guide to what a talk can include. Andrew often brings in material from other talks, or leaves out a sensitive subject – fatherhood, domestic abuse or men's mental health – for a particular client. He takes every client through the content on the exploratory call, so you know what is coming.
Yes. Every talk Andrew gives rests on three things: his lived experience, current research from around the world, and practical tools – new takeaways your people have not heard a hundred times, not reminders to get more sleep and drink more water.
Yes. Andrew's credentials include CPD-accredited keynote programmes.
Andrew's talks are engaging, entertaining, uplifting and positive – all of them, whatever the subject.
Andrew works graciously with whatever technology the venue has. He is not responsible for a technology or audio failure, but he can present without slides, and often does. He would rather not be fixed behind a lectern: where there is one, he asks for a microphone that lets him move about.
Let's talk dates
Tell Andrew about your audience and event – he'll come back with the right talk, format and a clear plan.