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All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys.
Paperback £14.99 · Right Book Press ·
Publishes 6 August 2026Published 6 August 2026
Looking for the keynote? The book shares its title with Andrew’s keynote on purpose:
Honestly, Man – the keynote
What it’s about
Honestly, Man is a compassionate, evidence-led inquiry into the physical and
mental-health crisis facing men – and what any of us can do about it.
It’s built on three honest questions: are there really issues for men today? If so,
why? And how do we begin to solve them?
“This book is written to address the physical and mental health crisis facing men. I
hope it will be of value to all men, regardless of cultural outlook, sexuality or gender
preference, and also to the women who have men they care about, whether the women are
sisters, mothers, partners, aunts, neighbours or work colleagues.”
– from the introduction
The book’s architecture
One honest argument, three questions
The spine of the book – and the clearest way to know if it’s for you or the people
you lead.
01
Are there issues for men?
We start with the honest question most conversations skip. Without alarm or statistics, the book names what’s really happening in men’s lives today – in their bodies, their relationships and their heads.
02
Why?
If men are struggling, how did we get here? A compassionate look at the stories we’re handed about masculinity – why they feel confusing, and why shame, so often the default response, only makes things worse.
03
What do we do about it?
Not a lecture, a roadmap. Practical, human, clear-eyed things any of us – men, and the people who care about them – can actually do, starting from where we are.
“The more we can talk about this stuff together, the more we realise we’re not
alone, and the more we can support one another.”
From Honestly, Man
About the author
Andrew Pain
Mental Health & Resilience Keynote Speaker
Andrew writes and speaks from lived experience. He is the author of
the forthcoming book Honestly, Man (available from August the 6th)the book Honestly, Man , host of the Men on Show podcast, and a keynote speaker on
resilience, burnout and workplace wellbeing. The argument in these pages is the one he
takes to main stages.
All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys. As Andrew puts it, men’s
wellbeing is hardly a magnet for funding – so it felt fitting that the book be a
practical response as well as a written one.
TEDx speaker
Lived-experience keynote
Men on Show podcast
Season 1 · 60 episodes
Member, International Coaching Federation
Professional membership
Mental Health First Aider
Trained
Themes the book names
Masculinity & confusion .
Shame .
Men’s mental health .
Burnout .
Male suicide .
Domestic abuse .
Fatherhood & relationships .
Asking for help .
What people are saying
Praise for Honestly, Man
Endorsements from the book’s front matter, and 11 reader reviews from Amazon.
“Andrew Pain is one of the most informed, engaging and humane voices around on men, boys and our issues. This book is an essential, whistle-stop tour of today’s most pressing topics, and whether you pick it up for enlightenment, self-care or parenting tips, you’ll find a trove of wisdom inside.”
AF Ally Fogg Writer and chair of the Association for Male Health and Wellbeing
Speaks to: Men’s mental health
.
Amazon review
“There is challenge without shame, compassion without shying away from difficult subjects, and a focus on the much more useful question: what might make a difference?”
“Andrew Pain brings compassion and balance to an often-misunderstood conversation about the challenges facing men and boys. His book encourages us to look deeper at the roots of these issues and highlights the importance of community, role models and long-term support for the next generation.”
SS Sonia Shaljean Founder/managing director of Lads Need Dads
Speaks to: Fatherhood & relationships
.
Amazon review
“It’s informative without being preachy, compassionate without being sentimental, and leaves you feeling that positive change really is possible.”
“An essential guide – not only for men, but for anyone seeking a compassionate understanding of the complex challenges men are facing. Andrew Pain masterfully explains modern pressures while offering a hopeful, win–win roadmap that creates better outcomes for men and society as a whole.”
RP Ryan Parke Men’s coach, TEDx speaker and author of the bestselling How To Help Him
Speaks to: Asking for help
.
Amazon review
“Most importantly, it feels like it’s trying to understand men rather than judge them. Great read!”
“Honestly, Man is honestly fascinating. It reflects on where we are now, how we got here and what we can do about moving forward. Andrew Pain doesn’t shy away from the difficult topics but crucially handles them in a way that isn’t preachy, doesn’t feel like you’re getting a lecture and instead feels like you’re just listening to a man who cares about the future.”
DC Duncan Craig, OBE Honorary senior research fellow, University of Manchester, and CEO, We Are Survivors
Speaks to: Men’s mental health
.
Amazon review
“The second section offers positive hopeful practical guidance to becoming a better man.”
“Perfectly sets out the challenges men and boys face and follows them up with solutions. All interwoven with the author’s lived experience, learning from others and his trademark sprightly manner. A cracking read!”
MB Mark Brooks, OBE Chair of the ManKind Initiative; director of policy & communications at the Centre for Policy Research on Men and Boys; lead organiser for International Men’s Day UK
Speaks to: Asking for help
.
Amazon review
“Andrew's book is a timely gift to men of all ages, and women. It's a conversation starter.”
“Men can be pressured to believe that feeling anything less than a testosterone powerhouse of machismo somehow makes them ‘not man enough’. Yet it doesn’t have to be this way. This book gives hope, guidance and easy-to-apply techniques that can help you, me, him and them. Every man should read this book.”
DH Dave Hyner Multiple award-winning keynote speaker
Speaks to: Masculinity & confusion
.
Amazon review
“He writes about what we can actually do, for ourselves and for the men around us. Because those are the conversations most of us were never taught to have.”
“Andrew Pain’s voice is vital within the UK men’s movement and this book is a fantastic addition to the increasingly compassionate narrative around men’s issues.”
CH Chris Hemmings BACP registered psychotherapist; founder of M-Path and Men’s Therapy Hub
Speaks to: Men’s mental health
.
Amazon review
“I loved this perspective because I do think it is tricky for men to navigate what good, healthy men are, especially for young men.”
“Perfectly captures the obstacles modern-day men and boys face, and leaves you with a thirst to learn more about how best to support your fellow man. A triumph – I could not put it down!”
JG Jacqueline Gear CEO, Walk the Walk Family Support Service
Speaks to: Masculinity & confusion
.
Amazon review
“Andrew Pain shares his many lived experiences using a combination of brutal honesty and humour to show how men can navigate the often confusing world around them.”
“In my work with men every day, I see how confusion and shame hold so many back. This book opens up the conversation in a way that feels real, relatable and genuinely helpful.”
JW Dr Jack Woodhams CEO and co-founder, Menfulness
Speaks to: Shame
.
Amazon review
“Refreshing, not heard many of the issues addressed in such an original way…”
“…it makes a thoughtful case that supporting men and boys ultimately benefits everyone. As a father to a young boy, the subject matter really hit home.”
Honestly, Man explores men's mental health – including shame, burnout, male suicide and domestic abuse. It's written to open conversations, not as medical or therapeutic advice. If any of it affects you, please reach out.
Honestly, Man is a compassionate, evidence-led inquiry into the physical and mental-health crisis facing men – and what any of us can do about it. It is built on three honest questions: are there really issues for men today? If so, why? And how do we begin to solve them?
Where can I buy Honestly, Man?+
Honestly, Man is out now in paperback from Right Book Press, and you can buy it on Amazon. All author profits go to charities supporting men and boys.
Does Andrew give a talk on the themes of Honestly, Man?+
Yes. Andrew's keynote Honestly, Man shares the book's name and its subject, men's mental health, and answers three questions: are men struggling, why, and what can we actually do about it?
Is Honestly, Man medical advice?+
No. Honestly, Man explores men's mental health – including shame, burnout, male suicide and domestic abuse. It is written to open conversations, not as medical or therapeutic advice.
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Publishes 6 August 2026Published 6 August 2026
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