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On a mission to build more resilient communities
Who is Andrew Pain?
Andrew Pain Mental Health & Resilience Keynote Speaker
He speaks from lived experience of the pressures he addresses — a working dad juggling a business and family, an award-winning campaigner for men and boys, and an advocate for male survivors of domestic abuse.
Why event organisers trust him
Credentials that speak for themselves.
TEDx & award-winning
Lived experience, delivered on the main stage.
25 years’ HR experience
Speaks L&D’s language
CPD-accredited
Talks formally accredited
Host of Men on Show
60 episodes
Author of the forthcoming book Honestly, Man
6 Aug 2026
Mental Health First Aider trained
International Coaching Federation
Member
Why I speak
Lived experience to a personal mission.
I’m a TEDx and keynote speaker, podcaster, award-winning campaigner for men and boys, and author of the forthcoming book Honestly, Man. Through my keynote talks, I help organisations create thriving workplace communities and equip people to deliver on their aspirations and responsibilities — without burning out.
I want to be part of a society where the number of people dying by suicide is substantially reduced.
I want to be part of a society where men, women, people, work together as each other’s allies and where everyone is included, feels listened to and is noticed (whatever their class, gender or ethnicity).
I want to be part of a society where loneliness is no longer a ‘current epidemic’ and is simply a topic for history lessons.
Trusted by event organisers
The people who book speakers, in their own words
“The most helpful and productive advice I have seen in a very long time on giving presentations.”
“Andrew delivered a fabulous webinar on Mastering Presenting and Speaking Skills. Lots of top tips which I will definitely be taking forward!”
Booked by teams at
The human behind the keynote
A few honest things about me.
Outside work
I’m a happily married dad with 3 boys at home, so this means I’m a triage nurse, cook, maid, taxi driver, peace negotiator, war zone reporter, masterful blackmailer, health and safety officer, unappreciated fashion consultant and cleaner. I juggle charity work, social campaigning and sport along with a thriving business as a Speaker, Coach and Trainer. I’m a history geek and football fanatic, and at 50 I still enjoy throwing myself about on the football pitch, although getting anywhere near the ball gets harder week by week.
Facing fears head-on
I really don’t like planes or heights, which is why, at the age of 50 in July 2024, I jumped out of a plane to raise over £3,000 for the Mankind Initiative, with the funding going towards their confidential helplines for male victims of domestic abuse. Sometimes in life, you just have to get on with it and face your fears head-on.
Pet hates
Speakers who churn out the same old learning insights we’ve all heard a hundred times over, from dated models like the Kübler-Ross Change Curve to the Mehrabian communication model! If you’re a speaker, say something different.
Speeding drivers, and waste of any sort.
Biggest professional challenge
GUILT — particularly during the school holidays, on inset days or when the kids are unwell. I feel bad when I’m working and not being a dad, but then I’m twitched if I’m not working. If that resonates with you, I feel your pain. When the kids are off, I:
- a) adjust my expectations of what I can achieve;
- b) remind myself of what is real vs imagined;
- c) avoid doing childcare and work at the same time — do one, then the other, but not at the same time.
My man code has evolved over the years because I’ve taken time to think about what kind of man I aspire to be and where my rigid guidelines on how to be a good man have let me down, from my drive to be a knight in shining armour, rescuing damsels in distress, to the pressure of being the provider and the protector, which is OK if you’re feeling confident and you’re happily employed with healthy finances, but when you’re unemployed with a bleak financial future, it’s truly crushing.
— from Honestly, Man
Available from August the 6thOut now
Author of the forthcoming book Honestly, ManAuthor of Honestly, Man
If you're struggling, support is here
Andrew speaks and coaches from lived and professional experience. He is not a clinician, and his talks, podcast and writing are not a substitute for medical or therapeutic advice. If you're struggling, please reach out.
Samaritans
116 123 free, 24/7 NHS
111 urgent help National Domestic Abuse Helpline
0808 2000 247 abuse-related support Men experiencing abuse can contact the Mankind Initiative.
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